Last night I dreamt I was on some kind of nearby holiday island here in Sweden. It was evening and most people seemed to be relaxing and doing vacation stuff: sitting around on their verandas, walking down along the shore, drinking wine etc. I was walking around with one of my female colleagues; the professor of gender and law studies at the University and we were chit chatting about holiday houses. We went down to the sea and I sat myself down among some women who were talking among themselves and sipping wine. I sat with my back turned to one of the women and when I looked over my shoulder, I was all perplex because it was my mother: "-But it's you? What are you doing here?" It turned out that she was there with her girlfriends, just enjoying herself. My mother and the professor started talking about holiday houses abroad and my mother said that we were all going to our house on Crete (Greece) but that it was so small that we would have to rent extra flats too. I then asked my mother: "But what about the big house then? Why cannot we live there, is it let out?" She nodded: "It is let out to HIM all year." Then all of a sudden one of my female friends showed up - a women I normally go sailing with in awake life. I asked what she was doing there and why she was not with her two small children, and she answered: "We could only get two days free, so I thought I might just come out to the island on my own and get some sun. We are not going on any holiday".

The atmosphere in the dream was contemplative, slow and it was set at dusk a summer day. It was warm. The focus was still set on going away to travel, thus all the talk about holiday homes far away. The point is that we do not have a house on Crete; neither large nor small. We are only three members of my family so I don't understand why such a place would be too small? Also, as an adult I don't think that I would ever go on holiday with my parents in awake life. I don't think I saw one man in the entire dream, it was all about women and travel and talk in low voices?

Do you feel your mother intrudes on your personal life, such as where you should live and how you spent your time? In the dream, her presence there is not welcomed.

I also get the sense that you would like more time to get to know people, in this case, co-workers. You want to let go of work for a while and do some reflecting. This is probably why your dream centered around the shoreline. Water is related to the emotions.

Thanks for your input.

No, I cannot say that my mother intrudes on my personal life. She supports my decisions and she never criticises me. We have always been more "girlfriends" then mother/daughter. I would not mind one bit if she became friends with my colleagues or my friends. In fact, she already is good friends with many of my friends - regardless of me. In the dream, I was mostly surprised that she was there; I did not mind.

I suppose that I have always wanted to have more contact with co-workers; it has been a re-occurring subject in dreams that it makes me sad when they leave work and go "home to their lives" that I know nothing about - while I only have "one life" i e only a work-life and no "home life". I don't know if that interpretation has any bearing on this particular dream 'though. I had a feeling it had more to do with "female" as a symbol or "women" in general - symbolized by a professor specialized in gender research. The main subject in the dream is also houses; renting houses, discussing holiday homes; large or small. Leaving for holidays abroad - although the dream is already set in on a holiday island.

Hm, I cannot make sense of it.

You may be in a safer environment around women.

Hi,

Hm, I don't know about that. I feel pretty safe around both sexes actually. I have a lot of male friends and I am not a typical "womans" woman i e I rarely follow or fit in to large groups of women. Some people would call my way of behaving typically male; independent, no need or want to chit chat, don't like talking about emotions, don't like people giving advice etc

Nah, I think it has to do with the houses; choosing a big life or a small life or daring to go for the big life (house) or big self image.

Tricky.

//K

Well first things first, you don't really need anyone to interpret your dream as you seem to know yourself and what the posibilities may be.

My answer wasn't asking do you 'feel' safer with women as company, it was to say you may enjoy, you may be at ease or your spirit may excel in the company of women.

I'm sorry, didn't mean to sound as if I already know and I am just thinking out loud over possible alternative interpretations or leads. With every suggestion of an interpretation I get, I try to feel if it strikes a chord in me or not. Sometimes it does and sometimes it doesn't. And about the houses, it was just an idea that struck me; weather true interpretation or not, I don't know yet. //K