I am known to have pretty weird dreams. I just have a really hard time understanding what they mean. Me and my fiance broke up about 2 weeks ago. ive been having a really hard time dealing with it. :'( Ive been actually pretty misrable. I know so many things that he dusent know and he wont listen to me. One of his girl-friends put some stupid stuff in his head about me, all lies. and he bascially hates me now. wont even talk to me. But ive been having happy dreams about him????? its like wtf....a lil bit ago i had a dream about us getting married, is was in the forest and really pretty, but i woke up while walking down the asile, i understand that because halfway through our relationship we broke up, halfway down the asile. But this dream i had last night, just weird. i had two and were both about water. The first one was a big lake. and it was a competition. There was teams of 2 people each. My ex was with his bestfriend and i was with some girl i had in one of my clases one time. The game was that the teams had to stand in this line, make a sandwhich and then get in a boat and rush to the other side. It was kinda like musical chairs, there was always less boats then there was people. It got down to my ex and my team. And then i woke up. In the dream i remember feeling really happy. Although it was kind adark outside, gloomy, not daytime. But i remember feeling happy that i was winning. But in real life i lost. So i dont get it. In the next dream, i dont remember my ex being in this one, but i remember thinking about him. Me and a bunch of people were in this submarine type thing and there was 2 boats. the people in this small boat could only take a person at a time to the other side to be saved and then coming back. It was weird because i remember wanting to get on the boat and be saved everytime it came back, but once it left i wasent scared anymore. thats not the case really in my life. All i think about is my ex coming back to 'save' me. I think about when and how all the time. I miss him so much. Everything reminds me of him, i cant ask for anything but him to come back to me. Please help me figure out what these dreams mean!??
Well, the happy dreams about him are probably wish fulfillment and thoughts about what could have happened if you hadn't broken up. Water in a dream often has to do with the emotions, so it makes sense since you are going through a lot of emotional turmoil right now. The game where there were always less boats than people could have to do with you worrying that you won't be able to find the right person and you will be lonely. A boat is something that keeps you safe in the water, so it could be that you felt secure with your ex and now you have lost that. The same with the boats with the submarine. Not everyone gets to have a boat. You are right, it could be about your ex coming back to "save" you, but also in general a need for someone to save you. I think that the fact that once the boat left you weren't scared means that what you really need is some closure; you need to move on with your life so you can learn to be feel comfortable and more independent. Two weeks is a very short time; it is natural to have all these strong emotions so soon after a breakup. You have to give yourself some more time to get used to things and to think about things more clearly.