I had a thing back in HS with my best friends brother, always had a crush on him Idk what it is about him... nothing serious ever came of us..no big deal, but i always felt a connection with him...well anyways life moved on, got married had kids, I am divorced now but in a long time relationship and he is also married kids etc... I have been having these dreams since HS not necessarily about him but he is in them hanging out with me or doing whatever, nothing ever sexual goes on. I just don't get it these dreams happen at least once a month. I don't ever talk to him maybe on a rare occasion and we are friends on FB along with everyone else we went to HS with... These dreams almost feel real when i wake up like we really did hang out, I just don't understand why I keep having these dreams after all these years and wanted to get someone else's take on it... :sun:

Unless these dreams are having a negative impact on your waking life, my thought would be: enjoy, and don't over-analyze. Go back to your high school days and look at what there was about him that brought on that crush; and I think you'll find that they were traits you admired and were drawn to not just then, but now.

I don't think these dreams are telling you to try to get back together in the waking world. For all that your dream guy has a specific waking-world counterpart, the dream world and the waking world operate in different ways and are different realities. What's right in one is often wrong in another. Though in some ways this guy may represent a Road Not Taken - well, you're probably just as wise that you didn't. How many of us have learned how lucky we were to get beyond those high school crushes?

I have a blonde in my dreams who has come and gone for 27 years now. In her case, she has no direct waking counterpart but is based on one version of the 1960s Girl. She delights me. I'm always glad to wake up and remember she's appeared. I'm also glad, when all is said and done, that she's in my dream life, not my waking life. I'm going to guess the same applies tro your Dream Guy. Enjoy his company. Speculate and free-associate; but don't "interpret" or "analyze" too much. Interpreted and analyzed characters tend to disappear. Who wants that?

Yes I don't think my dreams were telling me to get back with him either. There were and still are traits that attract me to him. I wish we were still friends in my waking life but it just can't be that way and maybe that's why he is there in my dreams, still being my friend...i often wonder if i ever appear in his dreams lol prob not.. Thank you Bob for your insight

That's quite possible: that he's your friend in dreams because he can't be in the waking world. Though, in time, you may find the Dream Guy is different from the Waking World Guy - and perhaps even more likeable!

Dreams often compensate for things missing in our waking lives. My Dream Susan and I would probably have been a lousy match in "real" life; but we're lovers-become-friends in the Inner World. (If you're curious, you can read some of our escapades in my dream diary on this site.) Recently, a man posted here about repeated dreams that put him in a James Bond role, complete with Lovely Lady and cliffhanger endings that might have well have said "To Be Continued." My reply was pretty much: "I'll bet it beats your day job! Don't analyze, enjoy!"