I wrote this dream down as soon as I woke up, so I know it's accurate. The real-life back story behind the dream is this; Jess is a woman I love in real life. She is also dating a man, in real life, named Chris. Chris and I don't get along with each other because Chris knows I love Jess. One night when me, Chris, and Jess hung out we almost got in to a fight. My dream might have something to do with that night however, that was over 4 months ago.

Just in case you forget -

Jess = The girl I love in real life.

Chris = Her boyfriend who hates me in real life.

The dream:

Chris and I decided to end the animosity between us by way of a wresting match in a high school gymnasium during a charity wrestling event - wresting as in the Olympic style, not WWE or what you see on TV. However, the match was unfair because Chris is a full 80 pounds heavier than me and so Jess, being the competitive/confident type, decided to challenge me instead - assuming she could easily beat me and I accepted her challenge to get some alone time with her. I played with Lindsey the entire wrestling match, pretending to pin her than stopping it at the last moment - I easily defeated her.

After beating her during the wrestling match, we went back to her apartment/college dorm-like location. Her friends were all squeezed in the room (there were about 15 of them) and we were all talking amongst each other. We got on the topic of the wresting match and I casually mentioned that high school wrestling leagues are unisex (true in real life). This comment sparked anger amongst some of the women in the room and one of Jess' friends snapped at me and told me to leave. Chris mentioned to me not forget my wine-bottle-cork which was still attached to a complex cork-screw/wine-bottle-opener along with several other corks. I took my cork off of the cork-screw and left.

A little while later, as I was walking back to my house alone, I saw Jess and her large group of her friends walking down the street altogether - the same 15 people from her dorm/apartment. I yelled out into the group "Chris you fat fuck" and continued to call Chris fat hoping to get a response. All of a sudden, Chris ran from the group and up a street. I chased him and we stopped beside a mailbox, I was feeling strong and ready to fight. However, when Chris stopped, I realized I had been tricked. It wasn't Chris waiting at the mail box, it was some random person pretending to be Chris in order to deceive me and lead me astray from the rest of the group.

I then continued my walk back to my home and this is where the nightmare really gets scary. I ran into my living room and tried to warn my father, (who was sitting in the living room entranced in the TV) of an impending attack - I knew Jess' friends wanted to kill me. I tried yelling at him as hard as I could but every time I tried yelling, time slowed down and my words come out in slow motion rendering my speech indistinguishable. Entranced in the TV, my father ignored me at first but finally tried calling the police. He took too long to get through to the police and Lindsy's friends began crashing through the windows and invading the house. I ran upstairs because I knew I would have more time and my mother was on the second floor of our house. From the second floor, my mother guarded a window. Every time one of Jess' friends tried breaking in she pushed them out onto the ground. I helped her as much as I could but we were overrun and that was when I woke up.

Who is Lindsey?

Do you and Chris still have to hang out together sometimes, or are you able to avoid each other? I'm asking because if you are forced to hang out together, you both probably have to suppress a lot of anger so you can be civil towards one another. I'm guessing your are friends with Jess, so you can't avoid hearing about Chris, but maybe I'm wrong about that.

Does it bother Jess that you and Chris don't get along?

The part about the wrestling match makes me think that you are feeling a conflict. You want to have peace in your life and not get into fights, but you think that the only way to do that is to accept that Jess is Chris's girlfriend and you can't be her boyfriend and that is unfair. (Like Chris's size is unfair.)

Defeating Lindsey, could have to do with you needing to feel more powerful, especially if she is smaller and weaker than you.

Why do you think the women in the dream were angry when you said, truthfully, that high school wrestling teams are unisex?

Fritz Perls developed a method of dream interpretation in which you are supposed to put yourself in the place of every person and object in the dream, since they are really all part of you. I think it would be a good idea to put yourself in the place of these women. Why would it bother them/you to know that the teams are unisex?

It's interesting that Chris is the one who tells you not to forget your cork. Does he say it in a nasty, sarcastic way, or he is genuinely being helpful in the dream?

I think the part about you insulting Chris and chasing after him, and then it turning out not to be Chris, is a message that maybe you shouldn't be fighting with Chris. Maybe you are angry at the wrong person. I think the dream is telling you that maybe the reason you aren't with Jess doesn't have to do with Chris. Was the random person pretending to be Chris someone you know in real life, or was it a complete stranger? If it was a complete stranger, it could have been you.

The dream could be telling you that the reason you aren't with Jess doesn't have to do with Chris, it has to do with you. I don't know the whole story, but this could be because she doesn't know how you feel about her or because of something else.

It's interesting that at the end, your father (male) at first ignores you and then takes a long time to call the police, while your mother (female) acts like the hero.

"Who is Lindsey?"
- Lindsey is Jess, sorry that was a typo.

"Do you and Chris still have to hang out together sometimes, or are you able to avoid each other?"
- Chris and I barely know each other and I only see him when I have to.

"It's interesting that Chris is the one who tells you not to forget your cork. Does he say it in a nasty, sarcastic way, or he is genuinely being helpful in the dream?"
- No he said it in a way that was genuinely helpful.

"Was the random person pretending to be Chris someone you know in real life, or was it a complete stranger?"
- A complete stranger. Someone thin/athletic looking with dark hair. It didn't look like me or anyone I know.

Thank you for your insight.

So it was Jess you defeated in the dream?

I think you should think about why you dreamed about defeating someone you say you love.

By the way, feel free to go back and fix the names in your post if you think there will be a problem with privacy.

Thanks

Yeah, I only have vague ideas why I would want to defeat Jess and not Chris. Maybe I'm trying to control Jess because she is constantly on my mind and I can not control my feelings for her. I also remember wanting to wrestle Jess because I felt better knowing I couldn't lose to her and, of course, wrestling her meant being closer to her and touching her which is obviously something I wouldn't mind.