Okay, first off, this is the first website I've been able to find where you can share this sort of thing and get feedback. So. Background: I'm 16, I live in Florida, my boyfriend moved here in March from New Mexico, and we started dating May 7th. In case you don't feel like doing the math, that's almost five months. Oh, and my dad's a jerk. Not just the angsty-teenager-complaining-about-parents kind, either. My parents are probably getting divorced once I move out.

So anyways, a couple nights ago I dreamt that my boyfriend and I were adults and living together. We were poverty-stricken and living in a ramshackle shack of a house that was moldy, leaky, and basically falling apart at the seams. He had worked for months and months to afford a simple gold ring with no stone on it so he could ask me to marry him. I had said yes, and it was the day of the wedding. He had to go take care of something, and so since I had no money to buy him anything I was writing a love letter for him. He came home before I could finish it and so I gave him the rough draft. Then, we were just sitting together not saying anything, and I was hit with a feeling that it didn't matter that I had next to nothing, because I had him and that was all I needed, and I felt incredibly happy.

Then suddenly we were in this little rundown church. We walked up the isle together and my mom and this shady-looking priest were waiting at the altar. After we got up there, I realized that we were wearing rags, and I almost started to cry because I didn't even have a proper wedding dress. Then I reminded myself that the important thing was that I was marrying him, and that it didn't matter what I looked like because I was beautiful to him no matter what I was wearing. After all of that, my dad rushed in late, said a hurried apology, and took his place next to my mom, who looked angrily at him. The preist said a few words in Latin, and then handed my boyfriend and I marriage liscenses that we had to fill out before we could kiss and make it official. At first it was simple name, date, race, address, like any application for anything in general. Then it morphed into a really hard math test and my boyfriend breezed through it and handed it back to the priest right away, but I couldn't even answer the first problem and I started panicking and then crying. Now, for the record, math is by far my worst subject in school. Then I woke up feeling kind of depressed.

This was the most vivid dream I've had in a long time. It was also one of the ones that actually followed a pattern the whole time, rather than just being scattered and confusing. Anything would be appreciated, especially explaining what it means to marry your boyfriend in a dream as I haven't been able to find any sort of explanations of that online. Thank you so much!
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Thank you for complimenting this forum.

I think you are looking at the bad relationship your parents have and using it to think about what your relationship with your boyfriend might be like. You could be worried, unconsciously, that your relationship might turn out like your parents'.

If your parents argue about or have problems with money, then the part about poverty could have to do with real worries about being poor - or you could just be worried about that you are young and don't have much materially to start with.

The poverty could also have to do with emotional poverty. Maybe you feel that you didn't get the right kind of emotional support from your father growing up, you are worried that you won't be good at maintaining a relationship with your boyfriend.

Since you haven't been with your boyfriend very long, this dream doesn't have to be about him, particularly, it could have to do with your worries about how you would manage in any long-term relationship, considering your parents' situation.

The feeling that you would be happy with your boyfriend even if you had next to nothing - does that relate in any way to the way that you think your parents should feel each other or about you? Do you think that your parents, or your father, expect too much from you when they should just love you unconditionally?

The same with it not mattering what you were wearing at the wedding.

Does your dad rushing in at the last minute seem like something he would do - maybe not be late for his own daughter's wedding, but do you see him generally as inconsiderate and self-centered?

I think the math test is a metaphor for life and the problems that you will face - you are worried that you aren't prepared to face the future.

You are at the age where you are starting to think about your adult life. Also, because of the way your parents are, you may have had to grow up early mentally.

Wow, it's like you actually know me in real life thank you, and yeah, everything you said was fairly accurate. Thank you, it's been bothering me because I felt like I should be able to make sense of that dream, I don't dream a lot and when I do I almost never remember, it's always really vague. Thanks! That made a lot of sense and I really appreciate it