Okay, I will give a bit of history between the person I dreamed of and who dreamed of me in the same night. He was my very first "everything" when I was 17 and he was 18 we dated for a summer, broke up and didn't really ever talk much except for one run in a few years later when I moved back to the area for a short time. For 18 years we have had little to no contact until I found him on FB and at the time he was dating someone. We added each other but never really connected. Out of the blue a few months ago, he msg'd me on there and we have been txting/talking daily for the past two months. We are getting to know one another again, but due to our circumstances/past we are in agreement that a relationship with anyone is not possible unless our respective children approve and are ready for us to date (not necessarily each other). We are still in different states, but I am planning on permanently moving back this summer and we have an "understanding" (basically friends w/ benefits). Ok. Onto the dreams. I had two hours of sleep last night and suddenly awoke to my phone alerting me the charge was done. I also realized that I had dreamed of him the entire time. My father was alive in the dream and was able to see again (he's been gone for 4 yrs this July, and I happen to be moving back this July). His kids were in it, mine, my mom, and his family (though I didn't recognize anyone the only clear people were him, my dad, his daughter, my mom and my kids. The approximate time of the dream happened to be around the 4th of July. (July 2nd also happens to be my youngest's 7th birthday and my dad died on 7/17/07). It started off with me walking by this area and he was working, digging a hole or something and I remember waving and he waved back. Then it switched to me being in a store and seeing him dressed nicely and walking around as though he was looking for someone. It was me. We hugged, pecked, and hugged again. I remember a feeling of general warmth and closeness though don't recall details. Switched to me looking over and he was talking to my 6 year old about something. I remember thinking, "I haven't talked to my kids yet about him and felt an urgency to have a talk with my son about possibly having this man in our lives." Again, it switched to me in the back of "his" car with his dad in the front with him and we were going to his parents house for a 4th of July party. Come to find out my parents were there with my two older children. I immediately sought out my daughter before she could see us together so I could get her permission; (she is the strongest resistant factor in my dating life and truly needs to approve and be ready, as his oldest daughter.) I remember getting side-tracked when I saw a cigarette in her hand and then she flipped out and wouldn't listen to what I REALLY needed to tell her. I eventually walked away and saw my dad in his old lazy boy w/ a blanket. My male friend was walking around and we would touch each other subtely so as not to arouse suspicion. My parents were aware of our closeness, however. We were all waiting for the fireworks to begin. Then "he" sat in his recliner (which he does have one as well as my dad did) and they were seated next to one another. I remember looking over at "him" and he was looking at me and winked at me. Then his younger daughter came in while I was sitting by on the ground by his leg. I got up and went over to talk with my dad. I had a feeling something was wrong with her, but couldn't figure it out. My friend picked her up and laid her on the couch near him. Mind you, all of this "living room furniture" was outside of the house on the lawn in sort of a circle. While I was talking to my dad I noticed him looking at me intently. Then I woke up. Upon waking I immediately txt'd him (normal for us to bid each other good morning everyday) and said what a weird and vivid dream I had. He asked me what about, which I didn't expect as he's usually getting ready for work. I gave him a very BRIEF description explaining who was in it and about my dad. I asked how his daughter was (just in case) he said she was great (I was relieved!). Then I wrote and said I have the oddest dreams and how Im a freak (it's a joke). He txt'd back, "Funny but you were just in mine, too. we were getting ready for prom." Now, I told this to my best friend of 25 years who knows what's going on and knew "him" when we dated. She said that is really odd, b/c I think you're dad was with you and the fact he could see makes sense (as in all my dreams i've had of him he is able to see again). She said, "That's not the only interesting thing, though." She told me that when she had come up to visit me after I had been physically assaulted by my ex, my dad drove her to the bus station and was talking the whole way. He was crying and just genuinely sad about my circumstance (only child) and told her how he hated my ex for what he had done to me and that he couldn't stand my ex husband either. He told her that the only really good boyfriend that he ever liked that I had was this same one I'm talking to now. Anyway, sorry for being so long-winded, but I was really freaked by this occurrence and do believe that dreams can have meanings. So, if there is anyone out there who could shed anymore light on the situation from what I've shared, I would greatly appreciate it! I will go fill out my profile and stuff now, I just had to share before any of it left me. Kimberleigh
Thank you so much for your insight and advice. I will definitely work on being more appreciative of what my subconscience has to show me, and for the first time I awoke happy after a dream with my dad. I felt joy at having the opportunity to see him again as he was before his accident and to talk to him about what was going on in my life. Before I would wake up crying or sad that he wasn't physically here anymore, but I think I am accepting that he is still with me and lets me know in my dreams.