Hi! My name is Lainey/Female/24. I REALLY am DESPERATE for someone to help me. Ever since I was a little girl, I have had dreams or intuitions about things that I didn't realize were all warnings of deaths, until after the person was already dead! This may be long but you need to know the details in order to help, so please and thank you for reading this! Let's start with the first one..when I was 3, my mom and her friend, Charmagne went to a bar. Charmagne left with a man she did not know at the end of the night, and never returned. A year later, I had a dream that me, my mom, and my grandmother saw her hanging off of a bridge in Baldwin (a neighboring town to the one she was last seen), in my dream, we pulled her over the bridge and saved her life. I told my mom when I woke up, but knowing I was only 4 years old, she just took it in stride I guess. A year after my dream, Charmagne's skeletal remains were found UNDER THE BRIDGE IN MY DREAM WHEN WE SAVED HER! Next, a few years ago, my friend's mom "committed suicide" so said, as soon as I heard, I was in complete shock, knowing how friendly and outgoing and happy & sweet this woman was, knowing she had NO REASON at all to kill herself, and that she had a fiance' that physically abused her, I suspected fowl play. Supposedly, he was in his front yard using an electric blower to blow the leaves off of his driveway, not even 20 feet away from where he was, she "shot herself in the chest" and he found her. But he never heard a gun go off, she was in the passenger seat of her own car, he is very well off and had "inside connections" with the police in his hometown (where she died) and had alot of money. He also paid $10,000 cash to get her under the ground as quickly as possible..his hands weren't even tested for gun powder residue, she didn't have an autopsy. It just didn't add up. So, the night before her funeral, I had a dream that I was at her funeral, viewing her body, and she woke up and pulled me down towards her and begged me, "PLEASE stop telling everyone I killed myself! I don't want people to think of me in that way! I never would have shot myself! That's how it ended. The next day, at her actual funeral (which was on my birthday, weird), I was really viewing her body and i noticed that she had a bruise covered with makeup in the middle of her forehead, like someone would have been holding a gun against her head, and a bruise on her cheek. He got away with murder. Not to mention, a year after that, on the anniversary of her death, I gave birth to my first child, this cannot be all coincidences!! December 22 of last year, I had a crazy dream that i was stuck in fetal position and something evil was rolling me around this floor, and there was a piece of paper taped to the back of my head with the following on it:
15.
16. Barry Lighting (this one was highlighted)
17. C C (something or someone with a very long fingernail was scratching this name out very quickly over and over again)
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At the time, I had no idea what the hell this could have meant. But it scared me. Scared me to the point of calling my grandmother and asking her to pray for me! 2 weeks later, January 9, my friend messaged me on FB asking if I had heard about Barry. I asked Barry who? She replied Barry Olivier (my little brother's second cousin, only 20 yrs old, massive heart attack) I wasn't friends with Barry on FB but I searched for him to try and learn more, and his name on FB was Barry "Lighting" Olivier!!! I freaked out. I immediately knew that my dream was a list of people that were going to die. I contacted every single person I knew with the C C initials and told them I didn't care if they thought I was crazy, I explained, and just told them to be extra careful and more aware of their surroundings. A month after that, I moved in with my boyfriend. He had a friend named Cacie, who visited the house from time to time. The first time she came over i told him i liked her b/c she was just like me! She also respected my relationship and I trusted her. Last month, she got killed in a head on collision by a drunk driver. I took her death really hard, even as far as to contact my aunt and tell her to get papers drawn up, saying that if I ever died, I would want her & her husband to have full custody of my daughter, b/c her biological father isn't exactly father of the year. Anyways, I realized who C C was. it wasn't initials..it was Cacie :/ My boyfriend and I went to a town 20 mins from our house to visit one of his friends and when we were turning on a road to get to his house, I started to think about Cacie, like racing uncontrollable thoughts. I asked if he knew where she wrecked, and he didn't. We have been to the spot where I get the thoughts a total of 4 times. It's happened every single time, in that spot, on that road. Yesterday I told my boyfriend that it was bothering me and that I needed to find out where she wrecked bc everytime we passed right there I thought about her. His reply, "Lainey, she lived not even 100 yards from there." Then, his friend came over last night, I asked if he knew where she wrecked. It was down THE SAME ROAD that i have the racing thoughts about her!! She's reaching out to me, and I don't know why or what she's trying to say. I will find out though. I won't give up on her. How am I supposed to recognize which dreams are death warnings? Which ones to remember, or how to designate which ones are important? I am so confused and I don't wanna let this consume me, but I know it's a gift and I would like to be able to use it to the best of my ability. Any help or advice would be GREATLY appreciated.

Hi Lainey.

About the first dream, it seems kind of strange to me that you would remember a dream so vividly from when you were four years old. Are you sure you might not have gotten the dates mixed up, that you had the dream after you heard about Charmagne being found dead? It's possible that unconsiously you wanted to believe that you had control over things, so you have tried to convince yourself that you were able to predict the situation by dreaming about it. Google "Confirmation Bias" for more information.

Your mother might also remember the dates incorrectly for the same reason.

Is there anything that would prove that you had the dream when you were four, not five or six? I assume there are newspaper reports that prove when and where Charmagne's remains were found.

It's also possible that since Charmaine was the kind of woman who goes off with strange men, your mother or someone might have said something like "she's going to get herself killed one day" and that stuck with you. Is it a bridge that you pass by often that would show up a lot in dreams? Are you sure you remembr the bridge correctly? As I said, it was a long time ago.

Whatever it was, it was certainly something you had no control over.

About the second dream with your friend's mom who committed suicide, knowing what you know about her fiance, I can see why you would suspect that her husband was responsible. It's just your intuition revealing itself in your dreams.

Was there ever an investigation after her death?

Maybe this is a message that you should pay more attention to your intuiton in the future. For example, if you get a gut feeling that someone you know is in a relationship with someone that is very wrong for them, then say something. (I'm not accusing you of not saying anything the first time, just saying that you should be comfortable with speaking up.)

Sorry, but the part about you giving birth on the anniversary of her death probably was just a coincidence. There are only so many days in the year.

About the dream with Barry Lighting, even though you were not friends with him on FB, are you sure you did not see his name before? Maybe he came up as a "person you might now", as a friend of a frinend or somethng.

Still, it is weird that he had a heart attack. Was it completely sudden? Had anyone mentioned to you that he had health problems?

It sounds like you decided that CC stood for Cacie after she died, so you are trying to make your theory that you can predict people's deaths fit what happened after it happens. (When I think cc, I think of carbon copy, like on a letter or an email.)

Why wouldn't you have already known where she had the car wreck? Wouldn't it have been in the newpspapers and people talking about it?

Whatever the case, I don't think there is anything you can do about it.

Be careful about self fulfilling prophecies - if you convince someone that something bad is going to happen, they can act in a way that makes it happen. (Then again, if they are convinced that something positive will happen, they can bring about positive things.)