I had a very vivid dream about “H” this morning. A little background before I start the dream. “H” and I had a very intense but very brief 3 month relationship. It was one of those “sweep me of my feet kind of relationships.” “H” said and did all the right things. “H” was only a few months separated from his wife of 17 years when I met him. “H” swore to me that there was never and chance of them getting back together as their marriage had been "dead" for the last 10 years of it and that his wife had some serious mental issues (which I would later agree with as she got my telephone number and would text me very angry text messages bashing "H" and telling me I did not know the real him and I was a fool” Of course I didn't believe her because that was far from the "H" I knew). The relationship ended very suddenly and I was blown away to learn that the last month of our relationship “H” had also been seeing his wife again.” Needless to say I was shocked and very hurt. Anyway, it’s been over two months since the relationship ended and I really haven’t thought much about it or been hurt anymore for over a month. Then out of the blue, I have this dream this morning.


I am very curious about what the Lily’s growing on trees and turning into butterflies mean? Actually I am very curious about this whole dream. That is why I wrote it down as soon as I woke up.



THE DREAM:




“H” was going to the rental car place to return a rental car and the pick up his SUV (which in real life I think he sold) and somehow I was with him in his SUV. It was present time. We were talking about how we were each doing and I was telling him about the guy I had been currently dating (“D”) and that I felt like “H” must've felt when he was drifting away from me because I have decided that I no longer want to date “D” to focus more on my kids and I felt like “D” wasn’t into it anyway and I felt like I was wasting my time so I was ignoring his texts or answering with short replies and not initiating any texts to him. (this "D" part is true and really happened")

While we were driving, we drove past some kids on bicycles that “H” knew and “H” slowed down and put his
forefinger to his lips as if to tell them shhhh don't tell. That irritated me but I said nothing about it. We drove
and talked about us and the breakup. I was very sad and on the verge of tears but did not cry. We started driving under some really big green trees with big white flowers on them. “H” asked me if I knew what the flowers were? I told them they were Lily’s. They were so pretty and as we drove under them they would flutter from the wind of the SUV and turn into big white butterflies. I pointed out how beautiful the butterflies looked. “H” didn't see it, he said they were still lilies and the fluttering in the wind gave the illusion of butterflies.

Somehow we ended up at a big dinner party sitting next to each other at a big round table for 8, but we were the only two sitting at the table. "H" had his arm around the back of my chair, I felt so comfortable. We started talking about he and his wife getting back together ("C"). I told him that I really did want him to be happy but I worried that it wouldn't work again and they would end up separated again and going through the same stuff they were going through when they were separated previously. I said I worried he would be unhappy and sad again. He assured me that things were different and that “C” had changed, even getting a job and had her depression under control. He said they were happy and that they were a family again and he didn't think they would ever separate again. I told him I was happy for him (even though in the dream my heart felt sad). I told him that I drove past her in the car the other day and she gave me a dirty look. He was adamant that I must be mistaken and that she didn't hate me and she was hoping that there would one day be a day where we could all be around each other and be friendly. Just at that moment, “H” removed his hand from the back of my chair. I looked toward the door and “C” had just walked in the room. “H” acted as if he was expecting her and she did not seem angry to see me. I graciously offered her my seat next to “H”, which she accepted and I moved one seat over, now sitting next to her. We didn't say much to each other but I remember feeling very uncomfortable. I stayed just a few minutes longer before excusing myself to leave. I remember feeling sad as I left.



The dream was over and I woke up. This was probably the most vivid dream
I can ever recall having as I remembered every detail of it.

As a side note to the dream, I just found out that today is their wedding anniversary.....a little ironic.

Well, lilies are associated with marriage and with death, so they could have to do with "H" getting back with "C" but also the "death" of your reationship with "H".

Butterflies represent transformation, and they are also a message that something that seems "dead" isn't, but instead is being transformed into something new - when the caterpillar goes into its chrysalis it seems like its dead. They could either represnt an unconscious wish you have to revive the relationship you have with "H" (whether that would be a good idea to do this in waking life is a whole different story), and a belief that if you did this you would develop a newer, stronger relationship, or it could be your unconscious telling you that you need to move on to a new stage in your life and develop yourself further and develop different relationships. (Not knowing anything else, I personally would advise that you do the second, not from a dream interpretation standpoint, but from a life experience standpoint.)

"H" not seeing the butterflies could mean that you feel that he doesn't realize that he needs to change or that he needs to adapt to changes that have happened in you or in your relationship with him.