So a bit over 2 years ago someone I felt very close & attached too had passed away. And I took it really hard. It was one of my first grief losses I ever experienced, so it was extremely tough on me. I went into a depression for a while over it the year that it happened. But im way better now, and not in depression anymore. I’m back to normal, it just feels different knowing their not here anymore. But yeah reason I was posting about this is because I always seem to dream about this person.

A part of me I guess would like to believe that when our loved ones pass on someway, somehow they can still try to connect to us in our dream state? I know that’s far fetched, but I just like to believe that lol its comforting…But I’ve never dreamed of someone to consistently, or often in my entire life. Why is that? Why am I dreaming of them so? Even on some days when I’m not even thinking about them too much? But yet its always there when I go to sleep. Their usually positive dreams by the way. Every now and then I’ll have a sad dream where im crying over them again…But for the most part their positive dreams. So what does it mean to dream of a loved one so often? Like im talking about 3-4 times a week, etc..And this has been happened for over a year…

Is there something go on in your life now that you feel would be different/better if that person were still around?

Do you have a problem and you wish that this person were around to help you or give you advice?

Maybe your unconscious is trying to tell you that in order to solve a problem you should think about what that person would have done in that situation.

It's also possible that you have unresolved issues with that person, and you were repressing them because it was hard enough for you to just deal with the fact that they are gone, but as your grief has diminished they are surfacing in your dreams.

Thx for the response. Hmm...I don't really feel like I have any problems going on right now. And if I do I know what to do about it, so hmm..i still wonder what it all means? I dreamed about them last night once again lol It was a happy dream though. I saw them and its like were straightening up this place & then i turned around to them & they gave me this beautiful bouquet of red roses & chocolates. Then i walked outside and a bunch of women were trying to get to them & i got mad...like jealous like he's mine kinda deal lol!
And then that was the end of the dream. Maybe this part has to do w/cause I had "romantic feelings" for this person?? maybe thats why i dreamt of that last night. I'm still pretty lost, i've dreamt of them practically everynight for the past couple years.

You did hit one thing on the head, they were always the person I looked to for advice, or for inspiration to get through something. I don't really feel that way about anyone else..no one i look to for advice anymore lol Sometimes i still catch myself thinking, "hmmm what would they do if they were in this situation?"

I didn't realize it was someone you had romantic feelings for. Have you been in any relationships since then? Are you thinking about starting a new relationship?

Could you be comparing what it would have been like if they were still alive and the relationship between you had progressed vs. what your relationships (or potential relatonships) are like now?

Yeah I had romantic feelings for them. Pretty much thought they were "the one". I wanted to marry them & the whole bit. But the thing is they NEVER knew I felt that way, I never got the chance to tell them. So when they died it was like, "oh no. Who's the one now?" But subconsciously in the back of my mind I feel like for so long I always used to compare every guy I dated to them…And thats the way its always been. I try my best to NOT do that now, cause I obviously know their passed on, and you cant expect to find someone to feel the way a certain person made you feel.

But yes I have been in relationships since their passing. I've dated a couple guys since his passing, & had 1 serious committed relationship since his passing. Matter of fact I just recently broke up with my last ex 3 months ago. At this point I'm not looking to get into any new relationships, if it happens its okay, but im not really searching for that you know? I'm more focusing on my career than being involved right now. I feel like ive been involved a lot & just wanna take a step back from that for a sec to focus on other things.

Btw, had another dream last night lol!! You see how often they really are? lol This one was pretty short. But it started off I was walking into this house…looked like one of my uncles house. Except it was completely empty no furniture, the room was completely white. And i saw him there & immediately when we saw each other we smiled & we started joking around. We had like a pie fight lol throwing whip cream pies at each other. That was the end of the dream. So could these feelings i had be the reason why i dream of them so often?

Since you used to look to this person for advice, maybe in your dreams they represent of part of yourself that is wise and knows what to do in difficult situations.

Maybe part of your recovering from depression is learning how to access the stronger parts of your personality, and in your dreams this person represents wisdom and strength in you that you didn't know you had before.