hey everybody, im new to this board and i need SERIOUS HELP on this! background: ive been with my gf for a while and im paranoid and fear greatly of her cheating on me because i have been cheated on by my ex girlfriend before. we have had issues on trust before cause this is a long distance relationship but those issues are preety much over, but i still time to time get paranoid about her (like i would doubt what she tells me even though there is no proff of lying and deep down i know shes telling the truth) Just today we were sleeping (had my arms around her) and i had this dream dream: we were sleeping in a room that looked to be like my uncle's old room in my grandparents old house.....i was holding her, had my arms around her.....and then in the dream...i woke up and she disappeared...i noticed she just left like like 3 minutes ago..so i got up and looked for her.....first i looked at my computer to see something (forgot)...then on my way out of the room...i notice she left something (i think it was a sock)....then i went downstairs and there were three doors....the middle and the right door were closed...the door on the left was slightly open.......then i went back inside the house...and heard a gun shot sound...then i looked outside and realized it was these kids on bikes throwing things at my neighbors windows......then they started to throw things at my window and two went through the glass....i went out and started chasing them, but inside i didnt really want to cause i was tired and worried about my gf...so i got out of the house and started chasing them.... THE END my interpretation: the only thing that scared me was the door part.....the thrid door was open..like she went trhough it...could that mean there is a thrid person? like another guy shes seeing? and could the shattered windows mean damages to our relationship?? i have studied physchology before and i have learnedd that dreams are or could be metaporic, but could i have had this dream because i am always paranoid about being cheated on that it carried over to my dream or could it be that it is a message to me? PLEASE HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! THANK YOU God bless
First off I don't think a dream can definitely tell you that someone is cheating, they more than likely just reflect your own fears and doubts - which could of course be based on some real evidence that you may have noticed. It's a difficult one though, because you have cheated before it's going to be very difficult not to think of it. Very difficult for both of you actually. It's sort of the human brain works, we often assume that other people think the same way as we do. So if we lie a lot, we assume that other people lie a lot too... or people who are habitually honest and naively nice often assume the best in others. It's hard to get a away from. Do you think you would cheat again? I know that's not what you're asking, you want to know if your gf is cheating, but it might be all tied into why you're thinking that way. Has she cheated on anyone before, do you know?
well first of all thank u for ur reply no i never cheated on her and she never cheated on me, it was my EX that cheated on me and ive never cheated on anyone and my current gf hasent cheated on anyone. its just a fear i have since my EX did cheat on me before and it was unexpected. i just find it weird how it was 3 doors, cause usually when i think about somethign a lot then dream about it, its the acutal visual of it. ex: if i think a lot about cars before i sleep....i dream about cares.... so if i thought about being cheated on...shouldent my dream reflect my gf actually cheating on me and not some kind of metaphor?
Sorry I read it the wrong way around the first time, I thought you said you cheated on someone else. I've had a similar thing myself, not cheating exactly but just as bad I think. I used to be married to a Japanese woman and fully expected to be with her for my entire life, but she went a bit nuts and decided to deliberately try to make me really miserable for a whole year then leave me. That was seven years ago and I'm married to a much nicer person now, but there still this little part of me that's expecting something to go wrong. Well, I say it's a part of me, it's not really even as big as a thought, just a microscopic fear really, but our brains can't help but apply our experiences to a possible future in our thoughts and dreams, it's the only thing it has to work with. Rooms and houses often represent ourselves in dream, our inner selves, with different rooms symbolizing different aspects of our personality - all metaphorically, so the attic might be our higher spiritual parts, and a cellar/basement might contain our deeper, darker thoughts. When we explore new rooms we are sometimes delving into areas of our subconscious that we haven't been to before. Obviously you don't want to go too deeply into what every detail in a dream might have meant, wasting time dwelling on it to the point where it affects your waking life too much, but I guess that your girl friend being inside your house means that you do think she is very close, and the attacks from outside might mean that you fear she might leave you, go out the door, because of some outside influence. Obviously again, you've already told me most of this so it's a bit of a no brainer from my point of view - but the rooms thing, thinking about them in terms of being part of your subconscious, might help you understand what it's all about.
I think the 3rd door meant, that there could be someone else, not that there is...because you never actually saw her go through it did u? I also think this is your deep rooted insecurity from your ex. This really should be dealt with though, because if she were to ever cheat( im guessing you both are pretty young) that it could cause more trust issues in future relationships, which can be destructive and become a cycle. One thing I can tell you is this, I have been cheated on, I dont cheat, but it is not your fault or your shortcoming, there's nothing wrong with you that made her cheat. There is something wrong with her. She was the one who was being sneaky, lying and has questionable morals. Dont carry the monkey on your back, put it back where it goes. good luck