A little backround: My boyfriend and i have been together for 4 years. He doesnt live with me, and we have a somewhat long distance relationship. We are both in our 20's ( a lady never reveals her age), and see eachother every other weekend. he is the most wonderful person i know. I am a single mother of an adhd son, who he has embraced and treated like his own. He is getting ready to move in down here, he was finishing up school, which is why he isnt here now. I feel completely safe with him, i trust him 100%, he treats me like a queen should be treated, and i would not trade him for the world. We have (aside from the being apart thing) a perfect relationship. Seeing as how we dont get to see eachother every day, every spare moment we have, is spent on the phone together (thank god for being "IN"!) we both work, but talk at least 5 times during the work day, and when i get home, and do homework with my son, feed, bathe, play, and put him to bed, i will call him, and we stay on the phone all night (yes, we fall asleep on the phone together). were both very attatched to eachother, and know eachother like no one else ever could. The weekends he is not here, he visits with his family, who live about 20 miles away from him, and then every other weekend, one of us drives the 200 miles and spends the weekend together. so even when were apart, were pretty much always "together" so why do i have dreams almost every night, about him being with someone else? they usually involve him finding someone else, and i never get to see her face, and he is always very apologetic, and feels so terrible, and is honest about it before he does anything sexual with her. The situations range from, him telling me at one of our family gatherings, to being on a game show. Theyre making me very depressed, because every night, i have to see him be with someone else. and he is always there when i wake up crying, thanks to us sleeping on the phone together, and BlueTooth i dont have these dreams when we are physically together, or for the week after i see him. just the week before i get to see him. and they are devestating. i know for sure, 100% that he is not cheating on me, nor does he care to. these have just started rather recently, in the last month or so, and he is moving down in march, which is only a month away, and we are both thrilled. So why now? We have been through a lot in our relationship, nothing either of us has done to the other, but he went through things, and i went through things in our lives, but we have never had any problems. we are about as rock solid as it gets. Does anyone have any ideas? because we cant figure out why im having these dreams, and he feels terrible that he cant make them go away, and I am afraid to go to sleep, because i dont want to see him be with another woman every night. help!
I think sometimes dreams reveal to your subconscious what you don't or fail to recognize in waking life. Perhaps he isn't cheating on you, but he may have said something in a conversation that gave you pause, such as mentioning a female friend that you didn't know existed, or saying or doing something you thought strange or atypical of the usual behavior you've seen in him.
It could be that you are just thinking about the possibility of him cheating on you. Even though in waking life you know that he isn't, in your subconscious there is always that fear, even though it's unreasonable. It's just part of being in a long-distance relationship. It could also be that the woman with no face is you, and you are just imagining a different "you" who can be with him all the time; sort of a wish-fulfillment dream.