Hello all,
Two nights in a row I have dreamt vividly about my ex-boyfriend from 7 years back (we have no and have had no contact since back then).

The first night I dreamt that we met now and went on some kind of journey. The odd part was that he was suffering from dementia i e memory loss and he had grown really, really old (much older than he would be in real life). We went to Denmark (not so odd, he had a recording studio in a fishing village in Denmark when we got together 7 ago, although I never went there in real life - only heard of it) to some kind of fishing village and was walking around, sightseeing. I was trying to impress him and was talking about "all the times me and my friend have sailed here, over the years". In the dream I was eager to show him that I had done lots of exciting things since we had split up, although I knew that I was exaggeration to make it sound more interesting than it was. At one point he was walking in front of me, climbing a stair case and he had no pants on (!) and I have a really strong memory from the dream of thinking that he had a really nice bum for some one his age. In the dream we also met lots of people from the past (our past) that raised eyebrows when we arrived together. I remember feeling the same jealousy about the looks he got from various women that I used to feel at the time and the same defensiveness and urge to prove myself as "worthy" as I used to feel, although now he was really really old and no longer a "catch". He kept on asking me for help like an old person leaning on you, asking for support.

The second night (last night) I dreamt of him again. Yet again it was set in present time i e in the dream we also used to be lovers 7 years ago and had now met again. He was still a musician and this particular night he was playing a gig at a locale where (in the dream) he had apparently played before at the time when we used to live together. Yet again, lots of people from the past were there and they were all surprised to see us together. He was preparing his act, tuning instruments, fiddling with amplifiers, connecting wires etc and I was being the dutiful girlfriend/audience/assistant (like it used to be in real life). The odd thing was that a colleague from my current work was there (some one that I always fancied) at the bar and my colleague seemed to think I was there with him. The colleague offered to help my ex-boyfriend with his act. The act was very strange; My ex-boyfriend had a cloak on and some kind of prop that made it look like he was hanging from a hook with his feet not touching the floor whilst he sang and below the long black cloak he had a prop that made it look like he had furniture "wheels" instead of two feet. My colleague had offered to switch off the amplifier at a given moment to make the act stop in a (deliberately) sudden manner. We were preparing this all three together when suddenly my ex-boyfriend, casually, kissed me (as if we were naturally a couple). My colleague looked as if he could not believe his eyes. I remember feeling ashamed and confused and not really sure of who I was there with, who I belonged to, who I was cheating on. //Karin

Twice in a row; additional info

Hi again;

I am really quite sure that the above dreams have nothing to do with the actual persons involved. I am long since "over" my ex but he represents a different time in my life when I used to be free and in a freer environment (the artist world). The colleague is the opposite representing another "world" where I am a lawyer with stricter boundries, but more authority.The colleague in itself is not important as I am also long over that particular crush. The two men in the same dream could only mean something about clash of "worlds". //Karin

Or a clash of careers? One is creative and more his own boss, the other has deadlines and a stricter set of rules to follow.

Twice in a row; additional info

Hi,
Yes, that could be the case; they really stand for different career choices and types of lives.

I wonder what the act and the odd props (the hook that makes it look like my boyfriend is hanging rather than standing when he performs - and the little furniture wheels under his cloak) stand for? In real life he never did anything odd; just sang and played, when he performed.

I have dreamt about him (ex boyfriend) again once more since and this time he seemed to be ill or in need somehow; and I was taking care of him. I am almost beginning to think that something has happened to him in real life, but I suppose it is just my imagination. //Karin

You say you fancy this current colleague of yours. Your subconcious could just be comparing him against past lovers, which it sounds like you've discovered. I know the feeling of having dreams that eventually make you think someone in the past is ill. Have had those and each time I call to check things out, all is O.K.. Hope this is the case with you too.