I'm sure you guys get tired of newbs coming in and posting but I'm sort of at a loss here and desperate for some help from someone who might know what they're talking about. I actually dream a lot, more than anyone else I know. Most dreams are just dreams. This one left me feeling like there was more to it. So the dreams starts with me storming out of a cabin in the woods. I am on a path marching into the woods and I'm pissed off. Then my ex husband comes running to my side and starts to try to calm me down. I am yelling at him that this guy doesn't love me. No clue who the guy is either. I tell my ex that this guy doesn't love me because every time I ask him a question, he never answers it. My ex keeps telling me this guy does love me and that he is answering my questions. Instead of answering me though, he's writing his answers down on a piece of paper and putting them into a large manilla style envelope. I ask why he's doing that. He says that he's doing it because he loves me and he's going to surprise me with it soon. He said soon it will all make sense. I try to reach out and grab the envelop but I can't. My right hand is swollen. Apparently I received a bad burn and my middle and ring finger are still recovering and all swollen and I can't bend them. Then I become aware that I have no idea who this guy is that I'm talking about. I don't even say anything but my ex knows that I don't know him. So he tells me that this guy has been gone from my life a while and is back and that's he's a contact in my phone. And I don't know how I know this, but somehow I get the impression that the letter A is involved. He tells me to look into my phone under the letter A. In the midst of all of this, I become aware that a friend of mine is texting me but I am so preoccupied with what's going on that I'm not answering him. Now, that part of the dream was so realistic that I was convinced when I woke up that I would have a bunch of missed texts from him. I didn't. I also didn't have anyone in my A's that is a guy or that I'm not in contact with. When I woke up though, I felt anxious. The dream left me feeling very stressed and like I didn't want to talk about it. But it stuck with me. I thought about it all while in the shower, getting ready, driving to work, and all morning at work. I finally told a friend of mine about it and she did her best to tell me her thoughts. I was trying to find my own interpretations, like looking up what the woods mean, or the path, an injury, envelope, letters, ex husband. Most of it seems too vague though. Any takers? Please? Very rarely do I have a dream that has this much of an affect on me. I'd love to get some type of clarity.
Are you in a new relationship now, or are you looking to meet someone? How long ago did you break up with your ex-husband? I think this dream could have to do with you worrying that you aren't loveable, that you will never meet someone else who loves you or if you are in a relationship now, that you are unconsciously worried about whether that person cares for you - maybe these feelings havews something to do with you and your ex breaking up; maybe it has to do with your self esteem. I think "this guy" in your dream could be a part of yourself. We associate maculinity with logic and reason, so the dream could have to do with not being able to figure out a logical answer to questions you have had about things that have happened in your life and being angry at yourself for that. Your ex telling you that the guy does love you is you telling yourself that you are going to figure out the answers to everything. I think your ex in your dream represents your ex and at the same time something in yourself - what it is depends on the qualities that your ex has in real life. Your burning your fingers make me think of wedding rings (being "burnt" in your marriage), but the burnt middle finger also makes me think of the idea of you having been "f****d" (figuratively). It's hard to say what the letter A means in the dream. It could have to do with being first or at the beginning of something (maybe a new life). The shape also makes me think of a child's drawing of a front of a house, so maybe it has to do with family/domestic life/settling down.
Thanks for your replay, Marcia! I actually already replied to this once and it didn't seem to post so I hope I didn't skip something and this end up posted twice. I figured there would be more details needed, but I wasn't sure if anyone would even reply so I didn't want to get too lengthy. My ex husband and I have been separated for 4 years now. We have a good relationship now due to the fact that I'm a very rational person. He's re-married and I like his wife and I figure the harder we work at getting along, the better it is for the kids. I called off an engagement a year ago due to the fact his job took him literally across the country. It was an amicable split but it was still insanely painful. As for new relationships, I have recently reconnected with a guy, but we're not in a relationship. A lot of what you're saying makes sense, especially given the things going on in my life. It seems almost too simple, like I don't understand why I didn't think of some of it before. (Like my fingers healing from a burn? Why didn't that occur to me to relate it to wedding rings?!) Anyway, I appreciate the insight.
Maybe the fact that your ex is remarried and seems to be happy and settled is making you feel insecure, unconsciously.