I do not think about this person in waking hours. I am baffled as to why this person keeps showing up in my dreams. Dreams are all different. This Friday – I remember telling him in my dream if he wanted contact it was up to him as I had already sent messages on facebook. – He got a blonde girl pregnant. When I found this out I got mad in the dream. The dream ended. This Saturday – several of us moved into his house. I got mad about something and left only to return. (I think I was prego) There was a blonde in this dream too. Apparently he broke up with her. Does anyone have any idea why this I guess couple would keep appearing in my dreams? It drives me nuts. Today I remembered him and I stopped dating in June of 95 and reconnected in June of 97. Last time his many appearances in my dreams was in march we last broke up in march of 99. Any idea how to stop this lol
Is there anything that is happening in your life now that could remind you of your relationship with him in some way or of the timed that you were together? Do you feel that you had closure when you broke up or could you feel, unconsciously, that there is still unfinished business between you? Getting the blonde girl pregnant and then leaving her could have to do with starting something but not finishing it. Do you think there is any significance to the fact that she was blonde (since you pointed it out in your post?)
Nothing going on that reminds me of him or the relationship. I am in a relationship now and have been for over 6 years. My current relationship is nothing like the one I had with this guy. I defiantly had closure. I was the one to end the relationship. When I ended it I told him if he didn’t move out there was no way we could even be friends if he didn’t leave. We did talk shortly after I had him move out. He called to see if he left his high school ring behind. (Turns out the ring was in his new apartments bathroom lol) He got her pregnant in the dream on Friday. He left her in the dream on Saturday. He is currently dating a blonde. He sent me a friends request on facebook, maybe 4 years ago now.
I think your unconscious could be bringing up memories of your ex to get you to use what you learned from that relationship to help you deal with things in your current relationship. Even thought the relationships are very different, you can still learn from your past. Would getting a girl pregnant and then leaving her (or something not as drastic, but still irresponsible) have been typical behavior for your ex?