Okay, I just need to get this all off my chest.

First I live with my wife and her family. Her parents were kind enough to build us a apartment in the basement. She has a older sister who from day 1 we've been turbulent. We bicker and she was aganist the apartment and me moving in. Her sister is 1 year younger than me, my wife is 3-4 years younger. We're in our 20's.

Now before my wife and I were even man and wife, sister and I had arguments and snippiness. This was over her future and how its very likly that I will be looking out for her too. Like providing Shelter and such. Shes a stay at home daughter...waiting on Mr. Right. I on ocassion even
now ask her about her plans and goals...has none.
After our last blowup we were forced to be nice or avoid. We do have quite a bit in common and can be cordial. We can even have intelligent discussions too. Lately I've found her staring at me but looking away and I found myself staring too at her. I've been more polite than usual. She has too, I also believe we may attracted to each other from day 1.

On to the dream:

We had another family meeting where her parents finally demanded she plan her life. Being put on the spot she got flustered as her family heaped on her. I said nothing. She ran out of the house sobbing and I went after her. I tried to comfort her and she said "nobody cares about me" and I corrected her and said I did...and that I loved her...she smiled and said "...well I loved you so long..." and I jarred awake.

Could the reason we give each a hard time is because we actually have unrequittable feelings?

that is a problem you are going to have to let resolve it's self. here is an idea you may not like it but get sister and wife together and explain the dream. maybe they can help.

Well, since she is your wife's sister, my guess is that they resemble each other physically so it would be normal for you to be attracted to her.

Since you have known the sister for so long now, you could be starting to sympathize with her and feel sorry for her. You could be questioning some of the negative things you've said to her.

It's hard to say if she is attracted to you, as men are sometimes known to interpret women being nice or polite to them as being attracted to them in a sexual/romantic way.

It's normal to dream about relationships with people other than the people you are married to. You have to ask yourself if it is worth possibly causing problems with your marriage by saying something about it. Also think about what would happen if you tell her about the dream as well as if you tell her about your feelings about her sister.

i still say you need to confront them both. while i do agree with marcia i think it is your subconcious telling you to confront them both about these feelings.




however there is a chance your mind is going through alot of stress with the fighting your sister in law that your mind has change the anger into love in your dream. _ouch_ that is never good.

@Marcia... Actually her and my wife really don't resemble each other. As for sympathizing with her...I have been thinking about it and I think I maybe beginning to. Now as far as interpreting gestures and things...

She has a knack for wearing dresses and occasionally sitting with her legs open. I call this flashing, maybe she doesn't realize it. But why wouldn't you close or cross your legs.

At dinner time she looks at me and away often. I catch her sometimes.

And when I was in the craft room with her and she was showing me things that were right in front of me. Like I asked which pen was best. She would get up and cross the room and reached in front of me....showed me how to use stuff. Everytime I wanted to know where something was or if it was right... she would get up to show me.

She also bites her lip and fiddles with her shirt buttons while we talk.

@Aader
I often think that my dreams are very direct and to the point. So this one here is like...do I really care about her that way. I would never act on my attraction. But telling my wife that this is someone who I consider attractive won't be good. We had a talk about it a week ago. She listed off some men (aquaintices) she thought were hot or handsome...she wanted me to participate I chose not too

Well, speaking from a woman's viewpoint, and not being able to see what is going on, she could be flirting outrageously, or

She could be sitting with her legs open because she wants to relax and be comfortable, and she feels that when she is in her own home she should be able to relax and not sit with her legs crossed all the time.

She could be getting up to show you things because it is easier to do that than to shout at you from accross the room. If a male friend wanted you to show him something, wouldn't you go over to him and show him? It would depend how close she gets to you.

She could also be flirting unconsciously and not even be aware of it, and would be surprised if you suggested that she was flirting with her. Sometimes if you find someone physically attractive, you unconsciously make flirtacious-type gestures; that doesn't mean that you would ever want to do anything with that person.

Well, if you would not act on it then it's not a big deal. I agree that if you didn't want to hear who your wife thought was hot then it isn't fair to tell her.