I have dreams about an friend of mine I met for a few weeks two years ago but subsequently carried on correspondence with. I had strong feelings for her that were only amplified with the two years it's been now since we saw each other in person. Once we were sitting next to each other chatting online, some time later we were talking on the phone, and another time I was walking around with the knowledge that we would finally meet, only to wake up before we did. Most of the time the dreams are communication oriented, be it on the phone, chatting online, or talking face-to-face. Thoughts on what these dreams mean? And why they keep coming back?
Do you still communicate with this friend in waking life?What is your situation now? Do you have plans to meet again? How does she feel about you?
We still communicate via email and/or chatting though considerably less now. Perhaps once a month. I've proposed a meeting in person and she's yet to respond to this. As of last year when I told her of my affections she said they were unshared and told me she only views me as a friend.
Is it possible that in the dreams you are saying things to her that you haven't had the opportunity to tell her in waking life? What do you both talk about in the dreams?
We haven't talked in ages, so yes, and it's very possible that my subconscous is reaching out for communication. The odd thing is that we don't talk about anything. The dream is more focused on the fact that we're talking rather than the actual content of the conversation. What's the significance of this rather than actually having a topic of conversation? Am I right in interpreting it as my subconcious yearning to talk to her regardless of what we're talking about?
Yes, it could be a desire to talk to her in real life. How long ago did you ask her to meet with you? I can understand why she would feel uncomfortable since you don't feel the same way towards each other.
I had proposed the meeting a few weeks ago, but the dreams have been hapening on and off a while before then.
I agree that the dreams are about your desire to talk to her. It's interesting that you don't say anything memorable to her in the dreams. Would you have anything new to tell her if you met her in waking life?
Actually I guess I wouldn't. That had never occured to me.. I suppose I just want to see her for the sake of seeing her and it wouldn't really matter what we talked about.
I had a friend like that but we we're old highschool friends who met up a few years later.. to make a long story short... I'd rather have never dated becasue it destroyied what little friendship was still there. I would much rarther pursue a friendship and remain friends than to purse a dating realtionship that was doomed to begin with. I just chalked it up as a learned lesson, but I love my friends and it is very difficult to let go of a friend and have to live with never being able to see her again....